by Margaret Hardisty
If you want to believe what Hollywood has been shoving down people's throats for decades now, you'll buy into the idea that sex is the bottom line of life. It's the reason that every living thing on has to exist. The only thing that competes with it, in Hollywood's twisted view, is violence. Since sex is King (and Queen), true lovemaking has been lost. What we see now, in most movies where any type of romance is exhibited, is a couple slamming together with wide open mouths for what is deemed a kiss. Their hands are tearing at each other's clothes and as they gasp their way through moans and groans, they are moving as fast as they can toward the bedroom - or they may bypass the bedroom and do it right there, standing, sitting or otherwise.
The beautiful nuances that bind a woman and a man together in true love, the tenderness, sweetness and gentleness, is lost to the hot and heavy for the moment. A married couple who uses the movies as their inspiration is not going to end up very happy. It's far better to learn to make love, rather than just have raw sex.
We are not complaining here, we all can agree that any sex is better than none. There is a time and place for hot and heavy, passionate sex between a husband and a wife. But if that is the only kind of sex you know or want, your relationship will be the poorer for it. After all, if that kind of sex was the answer, why is the divorce rate in Hollywood through the roof?
When a woman thinks that her guy's sexual desires are nothing more than lust and she is a victim of his selfishness, she begins to turn off and, in time, may even want out of the marriage. Wanting them and loving sex are the two most important ways for a wife to feel to satisfy a mans emotional needs. Where a man goes awry in the matter is thinking that sexual expression does it for his wife emotionally. He may feel that nothing more is needed except for his working to bring in money to take care of her. He's wrong.
When a woman thinks that her guy's sexual desires are nothing more than lust and she is a victim of his selfishness, she begins to turn off and, in time, may even want out of the marriage. It really is not something you can hide or even fake.
If your lovemaking has been reduced to pure sex, you are missing out on the ultimate in sexual expression. You are making holes in the dike that holds back a sea of discontent and boredom that occurs in far too many marriages. Men, learn how to make love the right way, not only in bed but leading up to the moment and your wife will adore you. We have a lot on that in our books written just for guys, as well as additional material at www.LoveRelationshipHeadquarters.com.
Ladies, teach your guys the right way, not only to have sex, but how to make love on a continuing basis. You can learn exactly how to do that by reading the material we have just for you on the website. We're vitally interested in encouraging you not to follow Hollywood's leading. We want you to find what binds a man and woman together in love forever. We are interested in saving your marriage or making it stronger and more beautiful, because we're interested in you. Real lovemaking is just one part of that, we know, but it's an important part in keeping a marriage strong. The marriage that sustains your life.
Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Dr. Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com
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