by Margaret Hardisty
One of the men at our seminars came up and said, "My wife gets overly emotional. What's with her? If I say anything nice to her, she's all over me. So I don't say anything nice."
Right behind him was his beautifully radiant wife. She was beautiful to look at and a delightful conversationalist. She agreed that he was telling it like it was. Since she usually had to draw every compliment out of him, though, and it was getting more difficult by the year, she was trying to encourage him when he did do it on his own. As a result, when the poor fellow did venture out a bit, she was so thrilled she virtually attacked!
Our suggestion was that he cut a deal with her: He would make an effort to say nice things to her every day, if she would promise to accept them more quietly and gracefully.
Objectively speaking, her reactions were a lot better than those of some wives with whom we've dealt. They are ones who are so turned off that once their men start tiptoeing into the scary territory of trying to meet their ladies' emotional needs, the women simply shrug or get angry. Even if that happens. though, if Mr. Husband is dogged enough to keep trying and being positive about it, eventually she probably will start to respond.
Emotional starvation is an epidemic today. When a woman is emotionally starved for her man's attention - as most women are - she either gets that attention in a nice way or in time she shrivels up inside and turns off, not only sexually, but as we're seeing a lot today, she just might walk out of her marriage.
Men generally don't get it, though - and frankly, the women don't understand what's behind their unhappiness, either. This is the very reason that we have put so much time into creating material to help partners understand one another. We're trying, not only to educate men and women about ancient truths that are behind their deepest feelings and reluctance, but to lead them step by step in what they can do to right their marital ship so it sails smoothly.
Marriages of the worst kind can be saved, once these truths are realized and acted upon. We've seen it happen hundreds of thousands of times. Our message is different, we assure you, than almost anyone's out there. Our methods work. You can save your marriage, strengthen your marriage and make your marriage one to be envied if you follow them. There are materials for husbands and material for wives. on our site.
Make a choice to have a marriage that is filled with love and mutual respect. Examine the materials that are at this website you've tapped into: www.loverelatiomshipheadquarters.com and start clicking away. We have answers. Discover them.
Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Dr. Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com.
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