by Dr. Vance Hardisty
Some people feel that if they never live with someone outside of marriage, it's okay to divorce if their expectations aren't met and then get married to someone else. Modern culture has created a throw away attitude to marriage and difficult relationships. If the second marriage is a bummer, then how about a third - and then a fourth and so on?
It's kind of like looking for the Fountain of Youth to search for lasting happiness in that way. It isn't going to be there.
Certain celebrities are notorious because they've been married numerous times - like Elizabeth Taylor, a star of the past who was one of the most beautiful women of her time and played in many notable movies. Did she even try to save any of her marriages, even those through whom she had children? So maybe she did try but did any of the men she was married to?
We'll give her this one: She always married her interests, rather than just living with them. Of course, that sometimes meant she had to snatch them away from their wives. At least that was true in at least one case when she lured singer Eddie Fisher away from his then wife, Debbie Reynolds, another actress.
It took years before she was out of the media spotlight for good. Taylor either has kept other liaisons secret or she's changed her thinking where marriage is concerned. She reportedly has been living with a guy for a long time at the time of this writing but now, supposedly, is thinking she'll take her 8th leap into matrimony.
Then there is the mixing up of marriage and lovers, all at the same time. The noted talk show host Larry King is the perfect example of this. Still married to Shawn Southwick in his 8th marriage, senior Larry supposedly has been having an affair with his sister-in-law, Shannon Engemann, for the past five years. Similar stories of the rich and famous abound. It's got to be the rich and famous part of it where he's concerned, wouldn't you think? He certainly isn't getting the women by his good looks. (The latest is that he and his wife have decided to save their marriage - possibly because of their two small children.)
So...are these glittering, wealthy beyond measure super stars happy? Come on. We know better. Truly happily married couples know that these feelings don't last. So, why aren't their riches and beautiful partners enough? Why aren't they joyful continually having one sexual partner after another? The reason is because the human being was created by God to be monogamous. Having sex with someone outside of marriage will always bring turmoil to the soul. Promiscuous sex messes lives up and statistics prove it.
Lasting happiness eludes such a person, celebrity or not. If these types of individuals are happy on earth by some quirk, they won't be happy after they leave this earth. Everyone has to stand and account for their lives before God.
To quote an old saying, hitch your wagon to a star - but not a star like those we've just talked about. Spiritually they are blind and their sojourn on earth, as wild and appealing as it may seem for the time, is very short. You should make the state of your marriage your most precious and loftiest goal. We show you how to do just that in our books and material at the Love Relationship Headquarters.
Dr. Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com
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