by Margaret Hardisty
Mary had grown up slim. However, her figure tended to move outward a bit when it came to her thighs. Still, she was very attractive and looked good in her clothes. After she'd had three children, though, her body began to move outward all over. She liked the fact that it gave her bigger breasts, but the rest was depressing to her. Actually, she was feeling trapped. Her husband worked 50 hours a week and could not be there for his family.
Her unhappiness began to chip away at their relationship. He never talked about her weight but inside she felt disgusting and ugly and took her frustrations out on him. He fought back and when other things began to pound at them, such as huge bills and a job loss, she decided the only way out of the whole mess was to get divorced. She no longer wanted to save the marriage.
Despite her foolish decision, she realized that she couldn't go it alone . She hadn't finished her education and at best she could get a low paying job. She was concerned about the welfare of her kids. She'd have to find another man, that was all, and to do so, she needed to lose weight.
Her decisions devastated her husband who didn't spot the signs soon enough, and once he did, he refused to change anything he was doing to save his marriage. He wanted her to change, not him.
She also found another man and had an affair. The man was a dog, but because she was running from her hurt - and trying to run from herself as well as her husband - she couldn't see that. The "dog" went his way, in time, and she scouted for another guy, found him - another dog - and in time, he went his way. Meanwhile she filed for divorce, and continued to do what she could to make her figure better. V:3
The question is: Why couldn't she realize that her overeating and not taking care of her body was part of the whole picture of unhappiness that she was experiencing and that it eventually would result in the loss of her marriage? Why couldn't her ex-husband see that, as well, and do something about it before it was too late? The overweight was a symptom, not the basic problem.
If overweight is a monster gnawing at you, determine to do something about it now so you don't lose your marriage Yes, it's a symptom, but getting rid of a symptom can help with getting to the root of the real problems. Problems can cause emotional stress and physical illness and it all can tie in with being overweight. The body is a marvelous machine. Every part of your body is connected to every other part in some way.
Keep in mind, when the ball comes swishing toward your bat, you're the only one who can be there swinging. Either you practice until you hit it or you drop your bat and trot back to the dugout. You have to do it yourself. No one can do it for you.
We have quite a bit of material on this at Love Relationship Headquarters. And as far as your marriage is concerned, no matter how bad or boring you think it may be, unless it is abusive, it's worth saving - not only for your sake but for your husband's and your children's. We show you how, not only to save your marriage, but how to make it better and, frankly, exciting. Get started on our materials and books today so your home will be a happy, peaceful one, not one filled with strife and fat bodies.
Dr. Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com
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